Did My First Mother Love Me?

Book excerpt: This book addresses the needs of adopted children who feel the pain of having lost their birthparents. Written by an actual birthmother who gave up her child, the book tells adopted children that their birthparents loved them but could not care for them. The book speaks of the sacrifice and love involved in placing a child in another home, in terms that even small children can understand. For parents, the book also includes an article by Jeanne Warren Lindsay, 'Talking with your Child about Adoption'. It explains key points that parents should make when talking with their adopted children -- they were born like everyone else, being adopted is normal and natural and it's forever. And of course, their birthparents did not 'abandon' them, but loved them in the best way they could.