The No-No List

Book excerpt: • Do you feel burned from dating the same type of person over and over again? • Are you tired of endless dating that never seems to go anywhere? • Do you always start out with Mr. Right, only to watch him turn into Mr. Wrong? • Does each breakup chip away at your self-esteem, causing you to lose hope? If you answered yes to any of the above questions, the problem is not you! It is the way you’ve been taught to search for the right partner—find someone who shares your interests and live happily ever after, right? Wrong. In The No-No List, psychotherapist Venus Rouhani offers a radical new perspective on the dating game; common interests are not enough for a fulfilling relationship. That person who makes your heart throb, who has your sense of humor, and who shares your love of travel could also have a temper, wandering eyes, or a need for control that—as much as you want to ignore it—will rear its ugly head later in the relationship. But never fear! The No-No List will equip you with the tools to know which personality traits are deal breakers for you and will help you spot the red flags, even in a brand new relationship. Whether you’re dating, married, or somewhere in between, Venus’s insights, backed by scientific expertise and a lifetime of personal experience, will help you understand the profound connection between failed relationships and the hidden trigger points for pain and disappointment. By understanding what you DON’T want, you’ll be on your way to finding the relationship you’ve wanted all along!