Well Aged

Book excerpt: Finding happiness at 80+, from the perspective of an octogenarian. Author Ralph Milton wants readers to know that old age is not a disease circling the world ready to pounce on anyone over eighty. Many, maybe even most, old people, say they are happier and more contented than they have ever been. And that’s good news because Canadians are living much, much longer. In fact, octogenarians are the county’s fastest growing demographic. To quote the author, "Society has never had to deal with such a huge bunch of old people." To address this societal shift, Well Aged offers a candid, useful and entertaining insider’s take on life among the old, old. Not the recently retired who are enjoying Arizona winters and unlimited golf, but those in their last years, usually in the eighty- to one- hundred-year-old bracket. While there is good material written by health-care professionals for other professionals, and popular non-fiction to inspire the recently retired, there is virtually nothing written at the non-professional level for the oldest of the old. Or for their families and care givers. This book is a free wheeling, down to earth, inside look at what it’s really like to be old, written by an insider and sprinkled liberally with humour. Topics include: Identity and independence Choosing a retirement location among the options of independent living, retirement residences and nursing homes Personal health needs and priorities Community support, friendships and recreation Spirituality and religion Intimacy, companionship, sexuality, homosexuality Loneliness, depression and frailty Leaving a legacy and end of life arrangements When the situation of elderly Canadians does get public attention, as it has during the Covid-19 pandemic, the focus is on what can go wrong. Well Aged is intended to expand the conversation around aging, and it is a must-read for anyone who needs to put out their birthday cake with a fire extinguisher—as well as those who love and care for them.