What Happens When Moms Divorce

Book excerpt: In this version of the popular five-star book What Happens When Parents Get Divorced, author Sara Olsher has created a resource for divorcing lesbian couples to help their children understand divorce in a way that reflects their own family. The book stars Mia, a biracial little girl with crazy pigtails, and her two moms. It explores all the possibilities that come from parents splitting up.Kids and grown-ups have lots of fears, but for many of us, the "unknown" edges out pretty much everything else. When something big like a divorce or separation happens in a child's life, they often feel like everything they know is thrown into chaos. Kids (like the rest of us) handle change best if they know what to expect, both on a day-to-day basis and long-term. What Happens When Moms Divorce makes sense of marital separation and creates a visual routine that helps kids feel safe.Join Mia and her stuffed giraffe Stuart as they explain what separation and divorce is and how it affects a kid's day-to-day life. Using an illustrated calendar to explain how divorce affects a child's daily routine, What Happens When Moms Divorce focuses on the child's experience and removes the unknowns from the equation. This book takes the proven therapy technique of using a custody calendar and brings it to book form, helping same-sex couples show kids exactly what to expect."Most of the time we do the same things in the mornings. We wake up. We eat breakfast. (I like apples. Stuart only eats bugs.) . . . When something big changes, what we do each day can change too. Stuart wants to know what happens to our days when our parents get divorced."By creating a routine that kids can see and understand, parents can restore a sense of safety and predictability in their kids' lives, helping them to be more resilient in the face of life's inevitable challenges. What Happens When Moms Divorce is the perfect book for families that want to reduce their kids' anxiety surrounding divorce and separation.