Why Do Fools Fall In Love: A Realist's Guide to Romance

Book excerpt: From the first flirtatious text message to dodging insults in divorce court, this cheerful book about the horrors of love explains why the romantic idea of falling in love (and staying in love forever) continues to seduce us, even in the face of all experience. Falling in love is a complicated, messy, mad endeavor—and staying in love is even worse. But while bitter experience and brutal statistics may tell us that it will probably all end in tears, we still continue to believe in and pursue romance, even if it means losing sleep, friends, or our sanity in the process. In this nimble and original exploration of love’s hidden motivations and manifestations, Anouchka Grose tries to get to the heart of its hold over us. This straight-talking, sympathetic book sifts through the combined wisdom of philosophers and poets, scientists and shrinks to offer some serious solutions to the conundrum of love. Guiding us from the first flirtatious text message to dodging insults in divorce court, through swooning, stalking, and swearing undying devotion, this cheerful book about the horrors of love is essential reading for anyone who has ever loved and lost. And then loved all over again.